Top 3 Connection Killers

Over the years of helping women reclaim their marriage, here are the top 3 ways I’ve seen women inadvertently sabotage their connection with their beloved:

Trying to change him.

You want him to ask for what he needs, to open up to you, to parent differently, to romance you...

You tell him how he should be doing these things because that's what you really need from him.

While I know you have the best intentions and are just trying to get your love back and to feel like you matter to him, this just sends him the message that he’s inadequate in your eyes.

Which will push him away or, even worse, draw out his defensiveness and criticism of you! This just brings you more pain and loneliness…

Punishing him when he doesn’t get it right.

You have this strong reflexive response that seems out of your control most of the time: you get angry at him when he blows it with you.

He forgot an important thing you asked him to do. He stares at you stoically after you pour out your feelings.

I get it, your fight response comes out! You show him how much he’s messed up and hurt you by how upset you are.

You might go to work earlier, double down on your to-do list, give him the cold shoulder in bed at night.

As you’ve probably experienced, this usually makes it worse until the dust settles.

But, your resentment lingers and you still feel like crap...

Assuming he doesn’t care about you/your feelings.

This is another unfortunate trap of the negative dance you’ve got going on with your beloved. Our perceptions are powerful!

The danger here is that you manifest more of the same when you tell yourself this!

How do you stop these connection killers for good?

It takes work: commitment to breaking the cycle of the negative dance.

It takes increasing your awareness of what’s is happening within you and between you.

It takes a whole lot of compassion for yourself AND your partner.

It takes getting outside support to really master your connection skills.

It takes getting out of your comfort zone to get what you want.

If you and your partner are on the wrong path and totally stuck in the deep grooves of this negative cycle and it feels like the wheels might fall off, don't let things deteriorate--it just gets worse and harder to pull yourselves out of the muck.

If you're ready to take charge and do the work to reclaim your magical connection with your partner so he truly FEELS like your beloved again, book a free 45-minute Breakthrough to Connection call with me--say goodbye forever to the rut of disconnection!

PS: Join our free Facebook group, Create the Relationship Connection You Desire to get support from other women reclaiming their relationships every day.

Top 3 Connection Killers

Over the years of helping women reclaim their marriage, here are the top 3 ways I’ve seen women inadvertently sabotage their connection with their beloved:

Trying to change him.

You want him to ask for what he needs, to open up to you, to parent differently, to romance you...

You tell him how he should be doing these things because that's what you really need from him.

While I know you have the best intentions and are just trying to get your love back and to feel like you matter to him, this just sends him the message that he’s inadequate in your eyes.

Which will push him away or, even worse, draw out his defensiveness and criticism of you! This just brings you more pain and loneliness…

Punishing him when he doesn’t get it right.

You have this strong reflexive response that seems out of your control most of the time: you get angry at him when he blows it with you.

He forgot an important thing you asked him to do. He stares at you stoically after you pour out your feelings.

I get it, your fight response comes out! You show him how much he’s messed up and hurt you by how upset you are.

You might go to work earlier, double down on your to-do list, give him the cold shoulder in bed at night.

As you’ve probably experienced, this usually makes it worse until the dust settles.

But, your resentment lingers and you still feel like crap...

Assuming he doesn’t care about you/your feelings.

This is another unfortunate trap of the negative dance you’ve got going on with your beloved. Our perceptions are powerful!

The danger here is that you manifest more of the same when you tell yourself this!

How do you stop these connection killers for good?

It takes work: commitment to breaking the cycle of the negative dance.

It takes increasing your awareness of what’s is happening within you and between you.

It takes a whole lot of compassion for yourself AND your partner.

It takes getting outside support to really master your connection skills.

It takes getting out of your comfort zone to get what you want.

If you and your partner are on the wrong path and totally stuck in the deep grooves of this negative cycle and it feels like the wheels might fall off, don't let things deteriorate--it just gets worse and harder to pull yourselves out of the muck.

If you're ready to take charge and do the work to reclaim your magical connection with your partner so he truly FEELS like your beloved again, book a free 45-minute Breakthrough to Connection call with me--say goodbye forever to the rut of disconnection!

PS: Join our free Facebook group, Create the Relationship Connection You Desire to get support from other women reclaiming their relationships every day.

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