Many Faces of Relationship Fear
Relationships are one of the hardest things we can ever experience, because they’re one of the most deeply meaningful and important.
They permeate all parts of our lives, all the time, in every way. Sometimes we can get bogged down in our thoughts and worries and then lose our perspective—the big picture.
Case in point: yesterday I was on my way to my “intuition” class (something that would have been waaay out of my comfort zone years ago (this is part of my grief healing process).
And I thought myself, here I am on my way to work on my spirituality, and my husband is on his way to find a place to watch the basketball playoffs (no cable in our house...), and then the fear and its negative self-talk came up!
I thought, is there something wrong with this picture? Here I am striving to grow, heal, evolve, and my husband is going to watch a sports game?!? Is this a bad thing? Are we growing apart?
Then I caught myself: STOP IT! I am making meaning out of these circumstances that aren’t helpful and aren’t even true.
We can do very different things, even if he isn’t interested at all in or doesn’t understand much of the “woo-woo” stuff, he does support me in my pursuits. And I love basketball even if I’m not always excited to watch.
So, I ask you, are you noticing what you’re telling yourself, and what meaning you’re making out of what happens in your relationship?
Are you challenging your fear-based perceptions that might influence how you see and respond to your partner?