Disconnection Can Actually Be Helpful?!

The myth is disconnection from your partner is bad and always to be avoided.  

The truth is disconnection is an inevitable, normal part of being in relationship.   

You’re two different people with different histories, nervous systems and minds.  

The paradox is you can’t have connection without disconnection.

Just like you can't have life without death.  

It’s just one of the human existential realities.   

You also wouldn’t have the opportunity to strengthen and improve yourself and your relationship, just like you strengthen your muscles by working out.   

In healthy relationships, partners have the resilience to bounce back and repair after fights.  

Repair is essential: it makes your bond even stronger. You get better and better at being connected. Being interdependent.  

But in unhealthy relationships, there is a lack of resilience.  

And a lack of emotional safety, which feels very threatening to your heart and nervous system.

There’s a lot of protest of the disconnection in the form of defensiveness, blaming, criticizing.   

You just get worn out. Fights harder to recover from. The pain deeper. Loneliness more acute.   

In this case, disconnection can consume you, stealing your joy and vitality.   

It can be scary as hell, because it seems there’s no way out.   

The truth is the greater the degree of disconnection, an equal degree of effort is required to repair your relationship. 

And there's an equally tremendous opportunity to heal your relationship, to grow as a partner and a person.  

The changes you need to make are simple, but they are not easy. Repair is fully possible.

But it takes courage to face where you’re at. It takes courage to make a decision to change. And, it takes courage to get help.  

And it's absolutely worth it. Love is worth it. You’re worth it.

In fact, your health depends on it.   

Book a Breakthrough to Connection Call with Me today for help in reclaiming your bond with your beloved. You don't have to do it alone.