Are You Getting Better at Fighting?

have bad news: you’re either getting better at fighting or you’re getting better at connecting.

And, I don’t mean getting better at “fighting fair”. I mean fighting that doesn’t feel good and never feels resolved or gets to the root problem.

The good news is you can change this! I’ll tell you how in a second…

First, you have to understand that if you find yourself justifying, blaming, defending more and more in your fights, then you’re getting better at fighting.

The more you do it, the stronger your fight instinct becomes.

The indignation, the resentment, the hurt just fuels your “skill” at fighting!

EVEN IF you’re not having intense fights but just avoiding each other or being “civil” roommates with smoldering resentment, you’re STILL fighting. It just doesn’t look as bad…

The thing is our nervous systems were designed to deal with imminent danger, serious threats to our safety that usually END quickly—think of the saber-toothed tiger running after you…

 You either fight and win or you flee. Then the threat is gone and the stress is over.

You’ve heard of fight or flight, right? Well, with relationship problems, the threat is the ongoing disconnection: a weakened bond with your partner (that’s right, it’s not your partner who’s the threat).

The caveat is that your body doesn’t know the difference!

And the longer the stress of disconnection continues, the more anxiety, depression and bad coping strategies you develop.

Here’s the deal: you have to move out of the unconscious fight/flight response and master conscious connection with the right mindset, heart-set and skill-set that fosters and sustains connection.

This is exactly what I teach women like you: a new connection template that guides you every step of the way in transforming your relationship.

So you can actually enjoy your relationship instead of the stress of the ups and downs of fighting.

Feel relaxed and confident in your love rather than walking on eggshells or numbing out.

Have FUN, be playful and have great sex where you look at each in the the eyes and revel in your partner seeing your SOUL.

If THAT's what you want, I will walk alongside you every step of the way. You need mentor who holds you accountable as you take big leaps forward. Who helps you see your blind spots. Who encourages you in doing the hard work.

I help women rewire their nervous systems to trust in love and stop the fighting for good.

If you’re ready to commit to a lifetime of love, book a free Breakthrough to Connection call with me.