Are Negative Feelings Killing Your Marriage?

One of the absolute KEYS to an incredible marriage is "emotional empowerment". What the heck is that, you may ask.

Many women have told me they feel they have to suppress, override, deny, or avoid emotion so they won't push their partner away by getting angry, criticizing, blaming, etc.

This is a MYTH. And a set up!

The truth: this is not even possible, nor desirable.

If you suppress or override your feelings, it's bad for your health, AND they don’t go away anyway— they just get worse.They come out sideways.  

Which means more reactivity! Which is the real problem to focus on.

The emotions are there for a reason, you've just got to learn to work with them.

Emotions ARE what create the glue of your relationship—your bond.

It’s a FELT (embodied) experience! When emotions are managed properly, they enrich your relationship, not jeopardize it.

Emotional empowerment means you’re able to manage, use, and benefit from your emotions in a way that FEELS good even if the emotions themselves are difficult.

So, what you need to do is to understand the difference between reactive emotions that are protective and stemming from protest...

Versus more vulnerable emotions that you’re probably unaware of that are buried way underneath those reactive ones.

You can learn to identify the vulnerable ones and have the courage to share those.

That’s the only way to get what you want. To build safety. To take your power back.

When you live only in the reactive, protective emotions, you stay in a funky, negative dance. That feels like crap. That leads to divorce...

You both lose, and no one feels heard, safe, understood. You don't have fun, silliness, passion...It really, really sucks the life out of you. Seriously. Crappy marriages literally AGE us faster. Yikes!

My question for you: are you willing to put in the work and to face any scary stuff that comes up inside you to get the love you want?!

It’s totally do-able and totally worth it, but you have to be wiling to commit to yourself and jump in!

Book a free breakthrough call with me if you're READY.

Love,  

Heather